Overcoming the Crabs in the Pot: How to Deal With Negative People When Pursuing Lifestyle Goals

by MyDolceDiet.com Member, Nicolle Garcia

For some reason, in our culture today, people like to tear down those that are doing well. This is noticeable in diet, exercise, sports or just overall good deeds. So the question becomes, when we are doing well in our own lives, how do you quiet the doubt? Often times, we get stuck in our own heads, and talk ourselves out of what could be the seeds of greatness.
This has been true in my own life, going on almost 2 years ago now; my husband and I made a conscious effort to become healthier. We changed our lifestyle, which included a change in diet and exercise, and making new friends that held the same mindset that we were developing.

Eating clean, Earth-grown nutrients seems so foreign to many, and it meant we would bring our own food to family functions or choosing not to eat certain things and got sideways glances for it.

I think the phrase we heard the most was/is, “What diet are you on?” We were not dieting, it was not some quick fix, and we would tell them it’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle change.
Slowly, the inches and pounds started to come off and people took notice, we both became for confident in ourselves, and we have tried to encourage those around us to do the same. Some chose to take the challenge, others still to do their own thing.
We would still hear, “Are you still dieting?” Nope we are not dieting, becoming healthier is going great, just look. We have more energy and feel great, “How can you eat that?” It is because it gives us energy for days.

The main key to our success had been a positive circle of influence.

My husband and I encourage each other with our food, and exercise. I think the most fun has been learning the amazing art of jiu jitsu together; we plan on working towards our black belts together. In June of this year, my husband and I completed my #1 fitness goal for this year – our 1st half marathon! We also spent the 4th of July holiday running a 5k, and our 7-year-old daughter placed in the top 10 in her age division.
So I guess, to encourage others, DO NOT let the self doubt and negative talk around you bring you down. Weight loss and healthy living are a marathon not a sprint. It is going to be hard at times; if it was easy everyone would be fit and healthy. Embrace the free tools around you, from apps to books in the library.
A couple of good places to start are MyFitnessPal, which also has a corresponding website, and MyDolceDiet.com. Mike Dolce’s website is great due to the fact that it’s a selective community with recipes, exercise and a community of people that all have the same goal- to get and stay fit and healthy. If I can do it, as a busy working mom and wife, I know anyone can do it!